Hey y’all! I am back again with another “Adventures of Online Dating” post. I am not in the online dating scene anymore- I actually quit part way into the year. However, while I was on there, I got more than enough examples of profiles to be aware of. If you are truly searching for a traditional, long-term partnership, be VERY WARY of these profiles.
(Some) Profiles to Be Wary Of When Online Dating
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- If you are ever reading a man’s profile and there is contradicting info staring right at you, swipe left!
- THIS IS NOT A MAN THAT YOU WANT TO INVEST ALL YOUR ENERGY INTO
Enter at your own risk if you are interested in dating to become a communication investigator with a grown man heading into “mid-life crisis”.
What do you mean you are looking for a relationship, but also state that you don’t know what you are looking for yet. Get a clue sir, and then TRY AGAIN!
Matthew seems like an OK guy with a lot of wholesome interests but he is conflicted. Someone who is not sure about themselves, will only bring uncertainty to you.
And if you say, “well it’s not so big of a deal… you can know what you want but also not know at the same time.” Then cool, invest your energy into dating an ambivalent guy and let me know how that works out for you =)
Ladies, to the right ➨, you will see a seemingly wholesome profile without observable red flags. Message is clear and concise. Plus it is punctuated appropriately ✅
Enzo is an example that screening is not foolproof. You still have to get to know the individual behind the screen. I got to know him for about a month through casual text, Instagram and telephone calls.
He lacked boundaries!
I recognize that people have been scarred by previous relationships so I didn’t completely write him off with this doubtful behavior and incessant follow ups.
The one behavior that broke the camels back for me was his blatant disregard for my trigger. I always advise any person that I am getting to know about my trigger the first time it happens. I’m the type to not move forward with a conversation if you don’t respond to ALL of what I say- because why are you ignoring some parts? I only care to invest in people who respect and care about me/what I say.
Needless to say, it happened twice. The first time he did it, I directly advised that I appreciate him answering me wholly and not partly as it is a trigger of mine. The second time it happened, I deleted him from my life because why are you playing with me?
**Tip for Online Dating and Relationships Generally**
In relationships you teach the person how to treat you. So if you are teaching and they aren’t picking up what you’re putting down, then they will not be able to love you accordingly. Don’t head into relationships trying to change anyone!!
Looking for more tips on how to date online? Check out this post here from myalloy.com
This is all for now ladies and gents (because these tips are not only for women- they are for men too. I have been gone for some months and look forward to making a resurgence this year 😀
Stay safe out there folks, and I’ll be back… SOON! Check out other posts here.